I’ve been thinking lately about how do you know, when it’s time to let go of something or someone who isn’t really doing any good for you or your life anymore.
How do you know?
We, human beings, tend to hold on to things. Sometimes just out of pure habit, sometimes because things or people mean much to us and sometimes, out of fear or convenience. And we tend to hold on too long. Sometimes we postpone that change that could really benefit us and help us with moving on with our lives.
But what if we are only holding on just because of fear or convenience? How do we move towards that point of letting go? How do we come to that moment where we give ourselves a bigger value?
I, myself, have been struggling with this question many times in my life. I’ve been in situations where I’ve felt that something or someone just isn’t what it used to be. But still I hang on to it even though it makes me feel bad or not at ease. Just fearing the consequences it might have. Or what I could replace it with…
Let me make an example; Defriending someone on Facebook or in real life isn’t easy nor seen at as a good thing. Even though that, that person was never or isn’t that big part of your life anymore. Still people tend to judge when it happens. Or when you really are trying to change your life and you can see the changes yourself, but people around you only want to see the old image that they got stuck in their head. Refusing to believe that what they see is for real. Just waiting for you to fail and go back to your old self.
How do you deal with that? How do you move yourself from that equation? Do you refrain, just to please everyone or do you stand firm and go your own way?
Letting go of something old and familiar is not easy, but you can do it. When you feel it in your gut that, that thing or this person, who ever it may be, just makes you feel bad about yourself or doesn’t serve any purpose anymore. Maybe it’s time to let go.
There’s a saying, that you have to take care of yourself to be able to take care of others. And it couldn’t be more true. People who say that it’s selfish to think first of yourself, are wrong. I think. If you don’t take care of you, who then will?
I am not saying nor suggesting that you should go around and change minor things that might be bugging you at the moment, or make any big decisions that might have bad consequences for you or your life. I am only talking about things that might have gone too far. So far that they are doing harm to you or your life and that you might need things or people who could bring more positive influences into your life.
There comes a time when it’s important to take a good look at yourself. Just to see where you’re at and if you’re happy with things the way they are. Or if you could use a bit of a change. Big or small. I know it’s easy to procrastinate and save it for later. Because you know you might find something you really don’t want to deal with. So you avoid it until it becomes unbearable.
To make a change to your life sometimes needs courage. And if you are about to take that step you might need to be very clear towards the people who might be affected. No matter if it’s about you and something you need to change for the better. Or if it is about saying goodbye to someone.
Remember, their reactions are theirs. Not yours. As long as you avoid hurting people, you can’t be responsible for how people react. You are only responsible for your own life. So make the best out of it.