We have all been there haven’t we? Falling into the trap. Falling of the horse… Back into old habits that are not always that good for us. I know I have. And I know it’s sometimes hard to admit to ourselves and especially to others, that we are indeed only humans. Bound to make mistakes. And sometimes more than once.
May it be, going back to smoking or back to a diet that isn’t the best for us. Or falling back into an old relationship for the tenth time or having that drink that you shouldn’t have. The temptations are many and we are not always as strong as we would like to tell ourselves or others.
So why do we do it? What is it that makes it so easy to fall back? That makes us fall into temptation once more?
I think the reason is that we find something there that gives comfort, even though a false one. Maybe we think that we’re missing out of something that once was there but isn’t anymore. So basically, we are looking for something that once was. An old ghost that keeps on hunting us with images of the past. And often only the happy ones… as we tend to “forget” the real ones.
I am not saying that all temptations are bad. And not always bad to fall into or back to. But some are or can be. If something wasn’t serving you good and therefore isn’t any longer a part of your life. I think it is better to keep away from it.
And if you aren’t strong enough to do it yourself, it is ok to ask for help. We don’t always have the willpower it takes to keep away from what ever it is that is our weak spot. And yes, falling back sometimes (maybe mostly) comes with shame or guilt. So we tend to hide it from our loved ones pretending nothing happened, hoping it will go away by itself. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t.
And when it doesn’t, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Remember, we are all humans and we make our share of mistakes. And even though not everyone will understand, there is always that friend or family member that does.
Until next. take good care.